Dating. Are you serious …

Dating. At our age ? Who could have ever imagined ? Certainly not me, with all the men who used to hang around years ago. But that was before I was married and off the grid for almost two decades.

Now that I was single again, I had no clue where and how to meet someone. My niece suggesed the internet. I gave her one of those frozen stares and said, “You can’t be serious.” she looked at me and nodded, “Oh, but I am.”

After giving a few personal details of my life, like photo’s, checking various boxes for what or who I ‘m looking for in my desired mate, describing my interests, likes, hobbies, number of pets, children, the color of my eyes, skin, hair, Profession, claiming I didn’t ‘t do drugs, (like someone on-line would really admit they did), said I had a car, I was utterly exhausted.

After my nap, I published the damn profile without a proof read. I then began my search. Hundreds of faces popped up. I figured this must all be good if so many people were on here looking for love too.

We all had so much in common too. Maybe it was the age group, but I found it uncanny how everyone worked out at least 3 to 4 times a week, how we all ate so healthy, loved to bike ride, hike, see movies, read and travel.

So many men said they were looking for their last first date. The most over used line on there. What excited me most was how everyone loved to walk on the beach. Imagine. Obviously it wasn’t all at the same time, because I live 3 minutes from a beach and I never see anyone there but fishermen. There are definitely no walkers.

I noticed that the men who probably hadn’t touched a weight in years were always the ones looking for women who did They wanted a woman who took good care of herself & was in good shape. Really ? When was the last time they looked in the mirror ? Did they have a mirror ?

On-line dating probably has the most amount of people. Probably tens of thousands, but it’s a lot of work. It’s another full time job and I have enough to do right now.

I have heard sometimes you can meet someone by chance. Isn’t that the best way if at possible ? It could be a Starbuck’s, food market, bookstore, (the few that are left) or some other unexpected place. One never knows . People always tell me that ” You always meet someone when you’re not looking.” Well, guess what ? I hadn’t looked in years and I’m still alone. Then it dawned on me that the people that always said these things were not. In fact, most had never been alone at all..


About aboomersvoice

First and foremost, I'm a baby boomer and damn proud of it. The ones reading this post survived. Some didn't..We are the generation that crashed through barriers, broke through the norm and made our own rules. We paved the way for others to follow their bliss. One of the largest breakthroughs was probably equal rights and opportunities for women. Thank you Gloria Steinem and Betty Friedan. We burned our bras, well, most of us did. We marched against politics we didn't believe in, staged protests not knowing we could easily be silenced by a bullet, experimented with drugs, meditation and guru's. We traveled with backpacks across the country and throughout the world..We had a voice. We had a choice. We had a mission. We had freedom and we were united. I am a writer, traveler, explorer, observer and participant in life. I am part of the expansion of baby boomers who still believe in the original message of peace and love. Take this journey.with me. Who knows where it will take us next ?
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9 Responses to Dating. Are you serious …

  1. cindy knoke says:

    This is very well written and interesting!


  2. John says:

    Met my bride of 5 years online ~ yeah baby!


  3. diannegray says:

    This is very funny! Thanks for sharing 🙂


  4. darcielynn says:

    I can verify that online dating is really overwhelming and the process strange. Sorting through the best qualities a person can offer you, trying to distinguish what is true, half-true or not-true, trying to communicate ourselves a true and accurate light, without spending obsessive amounts of time on it…OyVay. I would much rather someone walk up to me in a bookstore and we sort it out as we go instead of airing dirty laundry on the first date.

    Thanks for reading and responding to my blog on dating as well. So many in the boat of sorting through potential partners in life (or not).


  5. make me laugh! Thanks for speaking the peace!

    You’ll like my new post. I think. Very funny


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